The Impact Of Disney.
The blue logo outlining mickey mouse’s head with music blaring and someone speaking the words “This is Disney” kept replaying in my mind as I excitedly waited for this new movie called “The Cheetah Girls”. It was this exact movie that powerfully gave me the courage to be strong as an African American girl growing up in a white household with “brothers” that resented me and the color of my skin.
Raven Symone was one of the many strong role models I had growing up. Every role model I had came from a fictional TV show that I secretly wished was real. When others watch TV, it is for entertainment but when I watch, it is because it stirs something inside of me.
Tv provided role models.
TV was the safe world that took me away from the reality of my own and it provided me shelter and comfort and showed me things that only the other side could.
I wasn’t getting that safety and comfort in my home and what I wasn’t getting in my home, TV stepped in like an older sibling or mentor, providing me with the desires of having a family.
Fun fact: My favorite family film is “This Christmas” with Regina King and Chris Brown.
If it wasn’t for the shows and movies that I grew up with I wouldn’t be the person who I am today, of course, there are other factors that make me who I am today, but they all add up to the person I am now. The little things matter.
The Impact Of Reading.
I was a nerd. I am not just saying that because I want to prove that I am, but I actually was. I always participated in the local library summer reading programs and would fill up twice as many papers than my brother.
I love reading and it was my pastime throughout high school. I hung with the various crowds, the unpopular and the popular and I remember some of my “popular friends” would make fun of me for checking out books.
Their words “Who reads books? Who checks them out now and days?” well, haha ME! ME! ME! Needless to say, I wonder how their future turned out.
Gratitude to my college days.
It is only right that I am now considered a writer by many even by my English College Adviser, who didn’t want me going for any other degree. She didn’t stop me from switching to majoring in business, however, she never let me forget that I was a writer at heart.
The Impact of College.
Going to college was the thing to do. I had told everyone that I was going to go when my son got old enough to attend school full time and I did. However, I never gave my all because I wasn’t really going for me. It took me two years to realise it wasn’t where I was supposed to be and one point I had both of my advisors telling me to go for what I really wanted.
I still remember when my business advisor had me in his office and asked me why I chose business twos years in from an English degree. He told me that his daughter decided to go for English even though others kept trying to persuade her to go for “worthwhile” degrees.
Dropping out of college.
After taking business classes for two-quarters, I dropped out to write books for Amazon’s KDP after selling more copies than I imagined. I haven’t looked back since other than visiting my advisor who I keep in touch with even now via text and meet ups at our local Starbucks.
The Impact Of Diversity Within The HouseHold.
I had multi-culture siblings of different races which allowed me to see the good and bad. Some of my foster sisters were from Thailand, some of the siblings were African American and some were white.
I was able to see how each culture was different and it also helped guide me while growing comfortable in my own skin and forming my own opinions, perspectives and realisations of people no matter the race.
The good side to the experience.
I truly believe if I had grown up in a one-dimensional household than my outlook would be totally different than how it is formed now.
This experience has allowed me to see and be open to differences right down to the social issues, the presidential election, how my peers might perceive me and so on.
The Impact Of Poverty.
During the struggle, I never would have thought about the wisdom that I would endure from going through. That wisdom, in turn, allowed me to create this site and help others all while raising my son to become the best person he can be.
He doesn’t have the same child elements that I had, however, I still teach him that he has it better than most kids and that he needs to appreciate every little thing.
Change what you can control.
For those of us who have been through the hardship, we are provided with an uncertainty which turns into the hunger to become better in what we seek and do.
For those of us willing to make a change, it has provided us with the skill to overcome any given situation thrown at us.
The Impact Of Feeling Unwanted.
For not always feeling like I was wanted, I had vowed to become the best parent whenever that chance came and it did. I am often told how I am one of the best parent’s people have met.
They’re not saying I am better than other parents but more so commenting on how I go the extra mile in everything I do with my child. If it wasn’t for that lack of love that I had been through growing up then I wouldn’t know how far a parent’s love could go, the potential is endless for those willing to break the cycle.
The Little Things Matter.
The little things make us who we are whether we realise it or not, every small thing that we been through or witnessed, or experienced adds up. Those joys that you experienced as a kid, the heartbreaks, the memories make up who we are as adults.
As time goes on we will continue to change as their joys, experiences, and memories and so on are added to the ones we have. The good, the bad, the ugly, a saying that I use to hear often, not so much anymore, but I believe it holds true to this.
A Call To Action.
ThirdWatch was a TV show from 1999-2005, that inspired me to want to become a cop. I joined ROTC hoping to enlist then become a cop. Although none of those aspirations came to fruition, I still hold true to military values that I was taught during my stint in ROTC.
What are some things that gave you joy as a child? Or what are some TV Shows that inspired you?
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