The fatal battle a human can face behind cancer…
One of the most contagious diseases that I have ever personally battled against… is poverty.
I lived within around and near. Family and Friends. Teachers and Peers. It was everywhere. No matter where I went, poverty followed me like a lost rabid dog looking for an owner to shadow.
Poverty first to cancer was introduced to me at a young age. It didn’t always start with food, it started with a lack of nurture that then grew into other areas of life as I got older. As I quickly learned that I was poor when it came to unconditional love, I realised the psychological damage that poverty could do. Then when food became scarce in the house, I learned how quickly poverty manifested and how not only did it affect the mind but the body as well.
When I lacked I over compensated for what I didn’t have. Lack of love taught me to act out for attention. Something that festered until my early 20’s. Stealing food and feeding myself and others taught me everyone must defend for themselves at one point. That lesson itself rolled over into protecting my dreams. Anyone that has ideas for a business or product at one point learned that defending their idea is inevitable.
There is no avoiding the failed system of haters and naysayers that will belittle and try to crush your dreams to crumbles before there is any sign of life.
Poverty not only knew how to follow me but it knew how to get into the minds of the people around me. Those who struggled dared not to dream big and if you went telling them your dream then it would be how dare you for dreaming and how mentally unstable your mind must be. Teachers are often those who subconsciously have the mentality of poverty. They lose sight on the possibilities of the world and start teaching their students in a box.
The burden of poverty from parents is often placed on the child and the cycle continues. Poverty presents itself as an imaginary family member sitting at the dinner table each night forcing you to endure their flawed way of living. The burden that was placed upon me from childhood tripled. It became my burden and it was now upon my shoulders to fix what was given to me. The same way that bills from the deceased fall upon to the next of kin. Burdens that no one wishes for.
However at the time growing up I didn’t realise the hunger that was growing within me. The hunger that only a few would understand. I am the only one of my family members that are willing to each and every time start from scratch and try to build something. Because living paycheck to paycheck only ensures that poverty will fall upon my family tree and that is what I cannot condone.
It was not the best friend with the hidden agenda that I wanted next to my child at the dinner table. As the hunger grew I found the more the chances took and as the accomplishments stacked up, the gap of poverty slowly started to fade. It continues now as I type this, writing this for anyone who will read this.
Poverty has killed many and has held the innocence lives of many. The slow killing of poverty is the only flawed light within the darkness. The time allows you to fight your way out. It is not easy but it is doable. Many have tried before us and many have succeeded more than failed. For those who have failed, it was the cycle that got to them along with the lack of knowledge.
“People get so caught up when trying to survive they often don’t see the opportunities. I mean its hard to see them when you get the money you can probably invest but you been without for so long. It is just nature to go out and buy what you need and some of your wants, but then the cycle starts back up when you get the next chance to do so, and before it is realised the cycle has become a cemented habit that needs to be broken” – B.A Whitfield
For those that have succeeded, the lessons that were learned were then applied to their fight which became the jackhammer to the cement. I myself have been within the cycle before learning how to break it. It creeps upon you like a coma, all it takes is one slip and you’re caught within.
Even those who hustle within the neighborhood I grew up in selling their souls for cars, clothes, and quick cash are still stuck in the vicious cycle. It might not be at that current moment they’re in, but the hands of poverty are there waiting to take hold of their future and their children’s future because there is no sustainability in the fast life. If something happens to that individual then the cash stops and poverty is there to greet what was left behind.
The only way to break the cycle is to fight against its grip and give your children the opportunity to fight it when you’re long gone.
“Though the streams of the gutter, from the ashes you rose, you have become one of a kind, one of the earth’s toughest soldiers. You have faced battles that only a few have won, survived to tell, and through it all, you have risen above. Can’t no one ever defeat you for you are one of the greatest warriors that have ever lived” – B.A Whitfield
Poverty is one of the greatest enemies that you will ever face and if you have lived to tell your story of defeat. Do the honorable deed and tell the fellow next you struggling to break the grasp of the hands of poverty.
As it made me who I am, poverty is now that distant friend that I grateful to have known but thankful to be rid of. I am only getting started on my journey and I hope those of you that understood and relate to this post begin to start your own journey and break the cycle. Enough with the struggle.
The lessons learned will become the keys to the doors waiting to be unlocked. All you have to do is apply the knowledge combined with your hunger to move forward. This journey hasn’t been easy for me and still isn’t but it has been worth it and within time situations have gotten better although I am still jack-hammering away the habits.
Anything worth having long term won’t come easy. Here are some quotes that I had written over time reminding me of the moments and feelings of the process.
“With Poverty comes mental depression and a good percentage of people don’t realise that. Poverty doesn’t always mean literally broke with no funds, it can also mean that one has a poor mindset”
“There is nothing wrong with wanting more than what you are accustomed to when it comes to the quality of life”
“Not all your family and friends will understand you. You might even outgrow them. But that is okay because you need people that are going to help you change and grow into a better you. There is so much out there in the world, don’t settle for what you know and are comfortable with because you feel safe.When you want something to last forever, it takes longer than the average time to build it. Click To Tweet
“Hunger will take you up and over but being comfortable will stall your growth”People often get comfortable after achieving their goals. Remain hungry! There are more levels! Click To Tweet
“Came from the gutter knowing nothing but now I am smarter than the average”Sometimes in order to get a change, you need to go out and find a change Click To Tweet
“Before listening to the ones that tell you that you can’t do it, watch and observe what they have been doing and then ask yourself, is their opinion valid?”
“Having people pay for your service or product can be terrifying, especially if you are just starting out. But, you got to take that leap”
“Never allow yourself to be one step from having nothing. Got a pot to piss in? Cool, but make sure you have a backup pot”
“Every entrepreneur does an internship. It doesn’t matter if they are under a company or at home at their desk. When you’re putting hours in and not getting paid, you are interning. The point of the outcome is to better you, get experience, get a salary, and/or customers.”
“Hunger comes from deep within. It breeds purpose”
“Find a place where your knowledge is appreciated and you are encouraged to grow beyond the measure of your being”
“The active fear of being like the other thousands of people out there with unsellable products is very much real, but if you feel you have a unique enough product, then go for it. Pull the trigger and don’t look back. No regrets.”
“You know yourself the best. Don’t sell yourself short.”
“As human beings, we are drawn to a greater power with limitless potential. If only a good half of us learned to listen to our guts, we wouldn’t be in unfortunate limitations.”
“Even in moments of droughts, you got to continue to push as if the seeds are sprouting. Even if no one is watching.”
“Just don’t let it be. This time let it be different. Free will is a powerful tool.”To be happy is to forfeit the opinions from others and go for what you really want Click To Tweet
Through the process, I have written numerous quotes and notes to myself of reminders that that lesson had been learned and it was only forward progress upon the path before me. If you have read biographies from those who have become before us you will often notice random ramblings throughout their journey.