The beginning of learning to respect yourself.
I realised all these years I didn’t really respect myself because of my imperfections and insecurities, but then the website came and I started respecting myself because of the grind, and I was at the point, in the mode of who gives a care what others think, I’m doing me.
The long haul learning to respect yourself.
But then the cycle began again to where I started thinking about what someone else thought and suddenly but slowly bad habits started to creep back up and it was then that I had the aha moment of when you learn to respect yourself for the first time, you have to build it, it isn’t an overnight success.
It takes years.
It takes years of learning to love and respect yourself and drown out the noise from the outside. And make no mistake, some of the noise we create ourselves, we turn our flaws and imperfections into something big thinking that’s what others see about us or think about us when truthfully it hasn’t crossed their mind, but since it’s magnified in our mind, we think it’s all they see.
It starts with ourselves.
So the second key is to stop judging ourselves because our naysayers are doing that for us and already built their success of tearing-other-people-down off doing just that.
Whatever it is that we are judging ourselves on, needs to stop.
5 habits on learning to respect yourself.
Surround yourself with people that will bring you up.
Believe in your dreams. And take action.
Become self-aware of your strengths and weaknesses and build them both up.
Don’t be around anyone that makes you feel less.
Don’t make excuses for those that treat you wrong including family and friends.
“They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.” ― Shannon L. Alder
“Beware trying to iron out all your quirks, perceived flaws, and doubts. It’s often these things that help you find strength, compassion, empathy for others and heart.” ― Rasheed Ogunlaru