Remaining friends with someone
is one of the oldest mysteries there is.
When a friendship or relationship falls apart we blame ourselves and then question what could be wrong with us – especially when the relationship or friendship didn’t last long.
So, how can we remain in a long term friendship or relationship?
For starters, it’s about growth. If we yearn for something we expect it to happen instantaneously without working at it and then get frustrated when it doesn’t happen or falls apart. It’s like not letting the glue dry before picking up the house we made with popsicle sticks.
We have to learn once again how to have patience and not be so quick to damage something that has potential. Because if we don’t, we will learn to regret it and wonder what could have come of it.
Time allowance can be helpful for the process and journey. If we learn to allow time, we learn to appreciate the climb, the journey.
Break the habit of rushing and stop to smell the flowers that come with the territory. When we allow for things to guide us rather than leading them, we allow for spontaneous rare moments to happen.
Becoming self-aware about who we are can help us to maintain the connection we have with the other person.
Instincts, Listening to our instincts can be the deciding factor on the events that play out, we can avoid most consequences that could have been prevented from listening to our gut.
Ownership, taking responsibility for our mistakes can make a huge difference in our relationships; a wise human being knows that pride has been the downfall of men since time.
The Little Big Things
The little things are just as important as the bigger things.
For an example, showing up for someone’s birthday is big but so is how you conduct yourself, both go hand in hand.
How to Remain in a Relationship
Understanding that we can’t control every moment of a second can help us on the journey of building the relationship/friendship that we want.
Understanding the effect and emotions of the other person and their thoughts and feelings can make the connection easier to maintain as well.
There is nothing wrong with us
This is all just a learning process and with each friendship and relationship that disintegrates is a chance and meaning to learn while applying the same lessons to the next one and soon we will get better at the connection which will allow us to remain long term.