“But are we all lost stars trying to light up the dark”– Keira Knightley
It’s been awhile since I had an important talk with my college advisor and left college to pursue my own path with her support.
We had lunch last week and she came up and seen our new place and gave the kid some homeschooling card games to play with his tutor.
Her support has always been #1. I requested an advisor that would have my back the first day of Human Development 101 and her name was given to me and ever since then, it has not disappointed.
Why we avoid what makes us uncomfortable
What’s even cooler is that during our lunch chat she bought up white privilege and how she never realized it before until seeing what her students were going through. I found myself uncomfortable talking about it for some reason, perhaps its cause she is the first person of white heritage in my life who brought it up to me and I didn’t know how to take it
We often avoid uncomfortable situations because we don’t know how we are going to react, or how to react. It could also be the fear of how we will react and so it’s easier to avoid the conversation, but when we avoid, we open the gate to avoiding any situation that makes us comfortable.
How Confronting things can lead to a greater outcome
Subconsciously, we hold ourselves back from healing, moving on, and the reward of the weightless feeling we can achieve with the outcome. Confronting the things that we avoid can give us the strength to move on and open the doors to confronting things down the road.
Going through life with a weight around the shoulders is not the way to live. Life is meant to be enjoyed while we are still here but it’s not always meant to be a cake walk in the park. However, we don’t need to walk on eggshells to keep the peace, because most of the time it’s not really peace you’re keeping, its fear.
Find someone that is your #1 Cheerleader
We also talked about the website and the countries reached and how she is my #1 cheerleader and subscribed to the website. We now text each other which is awesome!
Funny, how a decision in life can influence a greater outcome. I have always been writing but her support has been encouraging with each milestone.
Find someone that will be your #1 cheerleader while going through the uncomfortable times because the emotional toll that it takes confronting the unfamiliarity path is rough and the best-made plan with your #1 cheerleader can be the difference of how far you go.
Force yourself to face the truth